Relationships can often last longer if you wait longer before leaping into bed.
(PRWEB UK) 21 January 2013
Researchers asked members to reveal how long they had waited before doing the deed with their last long-term partner. They then asked them to recall an unsuccessful or short-term relationship or fling and asked them to reveal how long they had hung back before sleeping together with them.
In way over half (58%) of all the long-term relationships, the couples had waited a month or more.
A fifth (20%) had waited between three and four weeks.18% had waited between one and three weeks and only 4% had slept together within the first week of meeting.
However, out of the short-term or less serious relationships, the results were turned on their head. The clear majority (40%) chose to get intimate between one and three weeks into the affair. A further third (32%) had dived right in within the first seven days. Around a fifth (19%) waited that bit longer - into the three-four week category. Only 9% reported that they knew each other for a month or more before getting under the sheets.
It shows a return to old-fashioned beliefs that the more people in the early part of a relationship wait for someone the more people nurture the relationship going forward.
Out of the 300 answers that were used from the online questionnaire, 170 were women and 130 men. When the stats for the two genders were broken down, the findings were even more marked for women. 75% of women said they made their previous long-term partner wait. But when it came to a shorter relationship, only 15% had waited.
A similar but more scientific study appeared in the Journal of Marriage and Family last month. Its findings echoed those of the survey by single.adults.co.uk and in particular found a stronger correlation amongst women between relationship satisfaction and length of time before having sex .
The lead author of that study Professor Sharon Sassler Cornell said: “Women who entered into sexual relationships with their current partners the most rapidly reported significantly lower levels of relationship satisfaction than those who waited longer before becoming sexually involved. It indicates women are just more sensitive to relationship-quality issues than are men.”
The dating website single.adults.co.uk has 400,000 members in the UK. It forms one of several different niche channels, which members can choose from to suit their lifestyle. For example there is divorced dating, single parent dating, Christian dating and even a naughty channel for those not looking for commitment.
Founder of the parent group of adults.co.uk dating websites Paul King said: “People come to our site for all sorts of reasons but this study shows that if it’s long lasting love you’re after the old rules still work the best. Even though it looks like dating mores are becoming more relaxed, it seems that when both partners focus on the chemistry rather than the physicality, they grow to appreciate each other more, and ultimately get more fulfilment from each other.”
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