(PRWEB UK) 26 April 2013
First dates can be nerve-wracking: What to wear, what to say, when to say it, how to sit, who'll pay etc. The list is long and can be overbearing for many.
So, to gain an insight, Lovestruck recently carried out its annual Lovestruck survey among its members to find out what's important when it comes to dating and relationships. They had some very interesting results, from which an infographic was produced.
Brett Harding, Managing Director and Co-founder of Lovestruck, said, "The results from the survey provide a fascinating insight into the mindset of both sexes. I was then asked to analyse the results contained in the infographic and provide pertinent dating tips to help singles to succeed on that first date."
Harding adds, "Even though it can be a major time and financial sacrifice if there's no chemistry, the traditional evening date is the overwhelmingly popular choice. However, the survey results suggest that females also like the option of meeting straight after work, perhaps due to their 'checklist.' This quick 'chemistry test' after-work drink can save time and money so pre-empt this by proposing it."
When it comes to who pays, Harding adds, "Although we live in an egalitarian society, chivalry still rocks – especially when making a first impression. So, for first dates, I believe that the guy should always pay. It also shows that you're solvent and appreciate the social conventions of dating - qualities that females will be assessing. Even though the survey suggests that a quarter of women would be happy to 'go dutch,' rest assured your chances of first date success will be diminished if you don't settle the bill."
Three words: First. Impressions. Count. The survey suggests that the vast majority of daters will have come to a decision as to whether there'll be a second date under 30 minutes into the first date. Harding adds "It's even more important for the guys to put their 'best foot forward' as women are twice as likely to be able to tell if there's chemistry instantly. And because you don't get a second chance to make a first impression, it's important to hit the ground running."
Judging by the survey results, if there are three qualities that you simply must possess, it's cleanliness, good manners and a sense of humour. Harding adds, "It sounds obvious, but you're already halfway there if you ensure 'the holy trinity' are well and truly ticked. Of course, it's not just about the 'holy trinity,' especially for ladies. Women also tend to look for height, kindness, generosity, wealth, success and.... good shoes. Some say that you can judge a man by his shoes, so choose and look after them carefully, gents! Also, as a rule of thumb, I suggest that you avoid discussions on religion and ecology, both of which didn't fare too well in the survey."
In direct contrast to what Harding suggested you should possess for a first date, key deal-breakers on first dates were body odour, bad breath and rudeness. Not far behind this trifecta of first-date horrors are nose-picking and constant phone-checking. Harding adds, "The final one is a real sign of the times: Your date should be your sole focus for the next few hours, so don't check your smartphone unless you absolutely have to as it will make them feel unimportant and a waste of their time."
Great chemistry is pretty elusive, so when you meet someone you instantly click with sleeping together on the first date may feel totally acceptable. However, if you really like your date, Harding's advice is to hold out a little longer: "As cliché as it sounds, men like the challenge. And what comes from having to wait to sleep together is the slow-but-sure formation of the opinion that this one is worth waiting for. Conversely, waiting too long can be the kiss of death in the early stages of the dating ritual. Like most things in life, it's all about timing - so trust your instincts to make the right decision."
The full results and analysis of the Lovestruck Annual Survey can be found on the Lovestruck.com blog.